Ayeesh Chuchu

ABINDA MATA KE SO EP1 A mafi yawan lokutta maza kan yi ta korafin “wai ku mata mi kuke so ne?”  “Ba a iya ma ku”... “Ba a birge ku”... Bla bla bla.... Har yanzu ba ku fahimci mi mata ke so ba, har wasu kanyi tunanin ba a birge mace ko wani abu makamancin haka. A duk inda mace take tana son namijin da zai rika motivating dinta.  Ba wai ka zo ka zama motivational speaker ba😂.. Man! Wannan maganar motivation a relationship na ke magana a kai. Every woman wants a man that can inspires her, wanda zai iya taimaka ma ta a duk lokacin da ta bukaci haka.. Akwai lokuttan da mace za ta riski kanta cikin wani hali na damuwa da bakinciki, a wannan lokacin tafi bukatarka. A lokacin za ka iya lallashin ta da misalai maybe wadanda ma suka faru a kanka, ka nuna ma ta za ta iya wuce wannan wajen . Za ta iya zama kalar macen da take son zama.. Idan ta rasa wannan wajen ka, nan fa bestie ke shigowa, coz he will be there for her , he’ll cheer her up.. Zai ji matsalolin ta zai ba ta shaw

Okkkayyy! Dan anyi maganar kishiya kun fi kowa tada jijiyan wuya. Kece "wayyo Allah, ka cuce ka yaudare ni".. Kwana biyu kuma ki fara "ai ta gama mallake shi".   I'm fed up with "arewa women are not romantic".. Ya tura dan SMS na kara jadadda soyayyar shi a gare ki. Duk rawar ganin da yayi, you can't even reply with "I love you" idan wahalar typing kike. Yasan kin gani kin kuma yaba. Haba! Kiyi laifi ba za ki ce "sorry" ba. Ya yi ma ki kyauta babu "Thank you". Da kin haihu shi kenan ya zama Baban Indo, dan wasa da hirar soyayya kunyi bankwana da su. Da anyi magana ki ce yara. Ko kin girma da haka. In za ki fita kin iya kwalliya da kashe dauri, da kin dawo gida kin kama yawo da zani da shirt, ko daurin kirji. Dare nayi ki haye gado shi kenan. Kin ajiye ma Baban Indo abinci, ya ci ko kar yaci ke dai ai kin girka. Tsakanin ki da mijin ki sai dai maganar kudi "A bani kudin cefane, a bani kudin ankon bik

MANYA-MANYAN KURA-KURAI DA MA'AURATA KE YI BA SU SANI BA Aure na iya zama abu mafi kololuwar jin dadi da walwala a rayuwar dan Adam, a wasu lokuttan kuma ya kan zama tamkar mutum na zaune a gidan yari ne wani sa'ilin ma na gidan yari yafi ka kwanciyar hankali. Hakan duk ya ta'allaka ne da waye ka aura. A wannan zamani da mu ke ciki aure ya zama abinda ya zama a Arewa. Yawaitar mutuwar aure kullum kara yawa su ke. Har ta kai ana iya aure wata daya a rabu. Akwai abubuwa masu dadi a rayuwar aure, musamman ka tuna cewa wannan na zaba a matsayin aboki ko abokiyar rayuwata. Sannan akwai kalubale da ke fuskantar aure wanda sai an taru gaba daya wajen tunkarar wannan kalubale. Da yawa a tunanin su rayuwar aure, rayuwa ce ta jin dadi da more rayuwa na dindindin, sai dai bayan shigar su sai suka iske abun ba haka bane. Masana sun nuna cewa rayuwar aure gaba dayanta wata makaranta ce mai zaman kanta, ba wai makarantar je ka ka dawo ba, a'a makaranta ce da ba'a fita ciki

DALILAI SHA DAYA DA KAN SA A SO MISKILIN NAMIJI Kwanakin baya nayi ta samu korafi daga bakin mata su na kawo kokensu akan miskilan maza. Da yawa na takaicin halayyar irin wadannan mazaje saboda dabi'arsu ta nuna halin ko in kula. Duk da an san cewa dabi'ar mata ce yawan magana, babban rauninsu a rayuwa shine "So", sabili da emotional side dinsu. Inda a maza ba hakan bane, kamar yadda na karanta a cikin littafin "Men are from Mars, Women from Venus", inda na gane bambance-bambance da ke tsakanin mace da namiji. Wasu na ganin cewa miskilanci ra'ayi ne, wani bangaren kuma na ganin halitta ce. Akwai taken da Bahaushe yayi ma miskili "Kafi mahaukaci ban haushi". Ana kallon miskilin mutum a kan cewa mutum ne shi mai girman kai, da jiji da kai, mutum mai wulakanci wanda sam ba haka bane ba. Yanayin halittar shi ce haka ta rashin son magana da kuma shiga abinda bai shafe su ba. Alal hakika ba'a fahimci ya rayuwar miskili take ba, shiyasa da y

ALAMOMI GOMA DAKE NUNA CEWA SOYAYYA TA KARE TSAKANIN KI DA SHI Akwai bambanci tsakanin namiji na sonki da kuma bai sonki, wanda zai nuna hakan a aikace, a baki da kuma yanayin mu'amalar ki da shi. Da yawan mata za su fara tunanin ko nayi wani laifi ne? Miye dalilin canzawar shi? Mi ya kamata inyi wajen kara karkato da hankalin shi a gare ni? Ire-iren wadannan tambayoyi ne da za su yi ta yawo a zuciyar budurwar da ta rasa gane kan saurayinta. Wata ba za ta fahimci cewa sonta ne ya daina ba, sai ta fara neman sasanci, ta shiga halin damuwa da tashin hankali musamman idan aka yi sa'ar cewa ta mutu a soyayyar sa. A matsayinki ta mace, wacce aka sani da rauni musamman a bangaren soyayya, ya zama wajibi ki natsu ba'a shiga soyayya ta ka, kin san mi kike so game da namiji sannan ki san alamun da ke nuni da cewa wannan yaudara ce ko kuma an daina yayinki, saboda mune a mafi yawan lokutta muke fadawa ciki. Monica Parikh dake a NYC masaniya akan zamantakewa da soyayya ta bayyan

A wannan zamanin da mu ke ciki, daga lokacin da soyayya ta kullu tsakanin mace da namiji sai ku ga yawan phone calls ya qaru, a bangaren mace za ta yi ta jin dadi ai wane na matukar sona. Har labari za ta rika ba qawayenta "wallahi a rana sai muyi waya sau goma da shi, sama da 30mins ko 1hr". As time goes on, Sai ya rage kiran nan, maybe a rana sau hudu-biyar. Daga nan sai ta fara sama ranta ai ya fara kula wata, before you know ta fara korafi shi kenan fitinar yau daban ta gobe daban, kafin kace mi duk an ishi juna within 2 months. Da kin tambaya "wance ina wane?" "ke kyale ni da shi, dan rainin wayau ne bama tare yanzu".. Next month wani sabon bf ne.. Shima kuma haka. Miyasa a zamanin da ba'a samun wadannan matsalolin? Coz firarsu ta gani ga ga ki ce, koma minene a faifai za a kasa ayi ta ta kare. Duk wata doguwar firar waya rage karsashin soyayya take, make your phone calls short. Kuyi ta magana ba coma ba fullstop, tun ana fadin gaskiya ha

ALFANU DA RASHIN ALFANUN BESTY A TSAKANIN JINSI BIYU ©Ayeesh Chuchu ayeeshasadeeq2010@gmail.com Bestie dai kalma ce da ake amfani da ita wajen nuna kimar mutum da irin matsayin da ya/ta ke da shi a zuciya, wanda a Hausance akan ce "Amini ko Aminiya", wato dai mutumin da kuke kut-kut. Duk mutumin da za ka ba amana, ka fadawa sirrin da ke ranka, ba tare da wani dar ba. Ko kuma mutumin da a duk lokacin da wata matsala ko damuwa ta taso ma daya daga cikin su, su kan zauna su tattauna dan warware matsalolinsu, su na masu aminta da juna. Hakan na faruwa a tsakanin jinsin namiji da namiji, mace da mace ko kuma dai wanda yanzu ake yi a zamanance wato abota tsakanin mace da namiji. A wannan zamani da mu ke ciki an zamanantar da abun, musamman fitowar kafofin sada zumunta da kuma makarantun gaba da sakandire, inda za a samu akwai cudanya tsakanin mace da namiji. Duk kuwa da cewa a addinance da gargajiyance babu wata alaƙa tsakanin mace da namiji da ta wuce soyayya ta aure. Sai d

WANI LOKACI #ayeeshchuchuwrites Bayan wani dan lokaci, radadin ya kan rage radadi. A hankali mu kan gane dalilin faruwar wasu ababen. Mu kan fahimci dalilin da yasa suka yi hakan. Sai dai mi? Mu kan koyi cewa ba kowa ne a rayuwar ya kan zo ya tsaya a cikinta ba har abada! A wasu lokuttan su kan zo ne kamar taurarin cikin littafin rayuwarmu. Ba su zo dan komi ba, sai dan su koya mana wasu ababe a rayuwa, su sauya yanayin rayuwarmu,  har wani sa'in ma su koya mana yanda zamu so kanmu. Har mu san muhimmancin da muke da shi. Irin wadannan taurari abu ne mai wahala mu samu makwafinsu a lokacin zasu bar mu a cikin littafin rayuwarmu. Amma mi? Abu mafi muhimmancin a nan shi ne dole mu bar su su tafi, koda kuwa bamu son su tafi din. Daga farko abin zai mana ciwo, zai nukurkushe mu.. Irin nukurkusar da za ta sa mu kasa bambamce tsakanin rana da dare. Irin radadin da ko ina mu ka shiga yana biye da mu, yana tuna mana lokuttan da muka yi a tare masu dadi. Wanda har ya kan sa mu rink

Body shaming! 😩 A lot of women are on this table. Kawai dan ance kina da qiba sai ki zauna jabar babu gyara. Slaying din nan na zamani ba za ki yi ba. Maganar mutane na damun ki. Ko kuma kin cika siranta kin tafi 1.. Har ki zo kina cewa "Ina jin kunyar shiga mutane, wallahi ko hijabi ban iya cirewa" haaa! 🙆🏻‍♀️ Toh sannunki! Mutane fa da kike gani ba ka iya masu. Ko minene sai sunyi dan kushe ki. Ni fa, ban yarda wai dan ina da qiba ko ni na cika siranta ace ba zan kashe kala ba.. Issa lie wallahi. I must slay and dress decent.. Har cat walking nake, kaina tsaye qiqam 😂😂😂 What I want you to know is that, komi za ki ki fara sa kanki a number priority, Kar ki hango wai idan nayi kaza mutane zasu ce.. Daga kince mutane zasu ce din nan shi kenan. Kin mutu. Ni fa the way I love myself ko? Hmmmm ba'a magana. Be strong and raise your standards to change your life! #diaryofafatgirl #ayeeshchuchuwrites #tableshaker #thefragiletable

You met a guy yanzu-yanzu, ba kunya kawai ki fara roqo 🤦‍♀️, you're broke, you need money, you want to change your wardrobe .. Bla bla bla Girl! Wolla you have absolutely no self worth. Self respect dinki is 0 behind decimal point. Is he your fada? Haba mana. Duk ku ke ja ana mana kudin goro. The worst part ma, a gari kina feelings, forming big geh.. Kin zo soshal media kina beg beg.. Sliding into DMs.. From Ahmad's DM to Mahmud's DM. Some will even ask for your nudes, kai wasu ma abinda yafi haka.. You have no shame, just because of material things.. Thunder faya your akant... Nansense and beg-beg Kawai. Ki wani zo ki dami mutane maza yan iskane 🙄🙄 iffa slap you ehnnn. Iska na haihuwa ita kadai ne? You must be their mother.. Dirty and beg-beg olosho😒 #ayeeshchuchuwrites #tableshaker

Idan kina cikin relationship amma kin kasa gane kan relationship din take a break. Kar ki zauna cikin relationship din da za ki zauna cikin kunci, ya zama kina tare da partner dinki ne dan kar a ce ba ki da saurayi ko wani abu. Take break! ☹☹ Ki huta da zama cikin kunci, yafi maki da zama cikin relationship din da ba zai amfana ma ki komi ba. Believe me yafi maki da tara yawan samarin da ba wanda kike so babu wanda kike tunanin yana kawo farin ciki a rayuwar ki. Gara ki zauna single, kiyi ta addu'ar Allah ya zaba ma ki mafi alkhairi. Kafin ki sani sai ki ga Mr. Love mai PhD a love a ya danno. Zai zo a lokacin da ba ki taba tsammani ba, ke da kanki za ki ji cewa he is the one. Zai ba ki dukkan soyayyar da kike bukata saboda dama you're meant for each other. Sannan zai fahimce ki musamman idan yasan relationships dinki na baya sun taba zuciyar ki, zai ba ki lokaci ki fahimci kanki, zai ba ki duk wani support da kike bukata. Ba zai taba takura ma ki akan a dole sai kin so s

Da yawan mata na son supportive boyfriend/husband.. Ba wai kowane lokaci za kai ta I love you I love you ba.. A wasu lokuttan ma ko ka fada ba zata yi tasiri ba. Ba koda yaushe ne tatsuniya ina so da mararinki ke tasiri ba. All she needs is ka nuna ma ta son a aikace ba a baki ba. Ka ba ta duk wata gudunmuwa da kake gani za ta taimaka ma ta a rayuwa wajen cikar burin ta. Someone like Rafeeah za ta so wanda zai supporting business dinta, zai rika bombarding dinta da ideas. Zai taimaka ma ta wajen ganin ta cigaba a rayuwa, he will be there for her through the thick and thin.. No matter what ba za ta manta da shi ba, saboda ya nuna soyayyar shi a aikace. 🤣 🤣 Kamar Amierah ce ka ba ta kayan girki, books na girke-girke wadanda za ta karu dasu, maybe ka ba ta idea on yanda zata juya cooking skills dinta into business.. Kullum kana yabawa da kwarzanta. Someone like Gatawa da Naseeba hada su poetry books Malam ka ga aiki, 🤣🤣Ko yane ka nuna jin dadinka a poems dinsu. Kace Mairo rera mun

DEAR WOMEN   🤦🏽‍♀🤦🏽‍♀Na ma rasa ta ina zan fara abubuwa ne cinkus a raina kuma batun na mata ne, some may not be happy with the write-up but I don't give a damn. My dear ladies know your worth, soyayya fa ba hauka bace. Ki natsu! Ki kama sauran mutuncin da ya saura ma ki. Kar soyayya ta kai ki ta baro ki, wai ace ki tura nude pictures dan kawai yana ce ma ki "Baby I love you".. I love you banza da wofi, akwai I love you din da ta wuce ki kama mutuncinki. Wai har kina da guts na fadin Kar yace baya son ki to shi din kanin ubanki? Idan yace ba ki son shi sai mi? Ya kara gaba da ma ke ba sonki yake ba. Abinda yake son gani da sanin yanda yake tayi hakuri a daura har sai ya gaji da gani 🙄.. No man in this world worth your nude pictures, no man ina fada ma ki. Koda sadaki ya ajiye da lefe baida wannan hurumi, don't even think of trying it. Idan ba haka ba ki kuka da kanki. Duk ranar da taku ta hado ku ranar za ki tantance tsakanin aya da tsakuwa ranar da kika tsi